Tuesday, March 5, 2019

You Say Your Players Aren't Listening? You Might Not Like This.


Coaches are always asking about discipline and remedies for when their youth players aren't
listening.  The question is usually asked with the mindset that the players are to blame.

Before I answer, I take a deep breath, assess how much I value that coach's friendship, predict possible reactions, then deliver my answer in my usual pleasant and positive disposition: 95% of the time it's YOU.  Maybe 96%.

OK, let me rephrase that in a more productive tone and manner.

I offer this one bit of advice that I find helpful: blame the players LAST. This forces you to examine as many possibilities as possible and forces you to reflect on your session. (This is a good time for an "It's not you, it's me" reference)

Tuesday, February 19, 2019

The Importance of Using Jargon-Free and Slang-Free Language When You Coach

Plain English please! (or whatever language you coach in)

"You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't."

"You're burning your candle at both ends."

"It's boiling out", "do that ASAP"

Think about these sayings. Who would know them and at what age would they have understood their meaning?  Your job as a coach is to make yourself understood so you can transfer your knowledge to your players.

Let's discuss the age of understanding jargon and slang.

Wednesday, February 6, 2019

The Difference Between Treating Players Equally and Fairly.

If you know who I should credit for this cartoon, please email me. Thanks.
Do you know the difference between treating players equally and fairly?  There is a huge difference. How we treat different players is influenced by so many things including our perception of what some people refer to as "attitude".

Aren't we supposed to treat everybody 100% equally?  Can we? Should we? Are there standards for everybody to keep?

The first problem is coaches aren't sure what to do and do not have a lot of experience dealing with a variety of personalities looking to them for guidance.  They are usually volunteers in a pay-to-play system. (The pay-to-play model complicates things way more than people appreciate.)